Forgive??! Spencer may be the biggest Pratt in the world but NOONE has the right to make someone feel they need to dump their boyfriend for a friend. Its the wrong priority... your friends dont marry you, have your kids etc.. if i were Heidi Id never forgive Lauren!!!

Ive been badly hurt and forgiven but the friendship never truly went back to the way it was and fizzled out. I have one outstanding friend i miss but i know that deep down in my heart i would always look at her as the girl who hurt me... its so hard to turn back time and have things like they once were.

Forgive? Maybe. Forget? Never.

Speaking in the general sense, and not about this particular hills situation, I would have to say tha twhether I forgive that person or not depends on the severity of what happened . As I have gotten older I have found it easier to forgive (not forget!) people for certain things they have done. Of course they have been minor and if something huge comes up I CAN see myself cutting ties with someone..sometimes u do need to eliminate the negativity from your life in order to move forward

I think you can truly forgive in general. There are some extraordinary circumstances that I would consider "unforgivable."

Real forgiveness is a gift and yes, it is possible. Not forgiving someone for something only hurts you.

I'm not a very forgiving person. If you screw me over, I don't have time for you.

Yes, it's possib;e to forgive. I don't watch The Hills and have no idea what you're talking about there, but I do have a friend I would forgive if she asked for it. She dissed me for a boy by believing him when he said that I never gave him a chance, but I did. I even gave him tips on how to keep her because he seemed decent. She ended up kicking me out of our place right before my senior exams. I was a non-traditional, so i couldn't just move home. It effected my grades and obviously, our friendship, but I would forgive her if she proved that she'd realized what she'd done.

To forgive someone is not an open door. I forgive you that means I'm not going to seek revenge or set out to even the score. You can forgive someone and not allow them to be a part of your life.
Now, if you hurt or offend me again...we start all over. This time I may not forgive. You may get sued, go to jail or get your ass whooped...depends on what you did.

Depends on the person and the circumstances.

I do not forgive easy. Usually I will just write you off and never talk to you again. But I mean, that is an EXTREME case. If I were LC, I would never talk to Heidi again.

yesterday's episode of OPRAH, kinda touched a little on FORGIVENESS, she had this guy on the show whose son (Bart i think that was his name) had murdered his wife (bart's mother) and his son(bart's lil bro) and basically he had forgiven his son (Bart) for it. Oprah went on to talk about how basically whenever u forgive someone u let go of that pain/hurt u holding on to, n u can heal from there.

just felt like sharin. lol oh well!

now to answer the question, i find it so difficult to forgive the people that ive built soo much trust in. i easily trust ppl, so im always gettin burned:(. Im working on learning how to forgive and move pass it.

I think it depends on the magnitude of the offense.

If someone really screws me over and they apologize, I would forgive them. I wouldn't have hard feelings.

But I would also stop giving them the time of day.

I realize that make no sense.

It's impossible to completely forget. It's always going to be in the back of your mind. In my case it's happened twice (the same exact situation too) and if I ever become friends with her again I will always be worried that she is going to do the same thing again to hurt me. I can't let my guard down and enjoy the friendship in all the ways I could before for fear of getting hurt again.

100% circumstantial...I've forgiven and it's worked out great, I've also forgiven only to have that same person come back and intentionally hurt me again so I'm very choosy now about what I will be able to forgive or not...

i agree- it depends on the situation - depending on what- you can forgive - but i'm finding lately - in my life - it's hard to forget... and as long as you forgive but not forget - friendships change and can't stay the same...

Maybe it's not a matter of forgiveness but rather a matter of time. They both were obviously moving in different directions even if they were pursuing similar things. I bet once they work on their own lives and careers they will come around full circle if they are meant to. I think lauren is going to do great with her fashion line. She has a new fall collection coming out. Has anyone seen a sneak peek of it? I just signed up for the contest on hautelook.com where mark cosmetics is giving away tickets to her show! You get to meet her and get free clothes. It sounds fun. I hope i win.

I hate to say it, but when someone hurts me, I hold a grunge against them forever. Unless it's my sister or something =]. Even if I forgave them, it wouldn't be the same, because every time I would see them, I would get reminded of what they did.

I hate to say it, but when someone hurts me, I hold a grunge against them forever. Unless it's my sister or something =]. Even if I forgave them, it wouldn't be the same, because every time I would see them, I would get reminded of what they did.

I'm not sure, I'm working on this issue right now. I'll have to get back to you on this one.