My guy friend and I have been really good friend for about eight years. We went to neighboring colleges. After we graduated we moved to different states. We still kept in touch like normal but just didn't see each other like we usually did. Over the years my feelings changed from friends to more than friends. I've had numerous conversations with him about it and he says he feels the same way. But he's afraid that if we take it to the next level, it will ruin our friendship. I recently came back from visiting him. Spending time with him made my feelings stronger. And when I asked him how he felt, he couldn't give me a straight answer. He just said he doesn't want to mess up what we have. I don't want to ruin our friendship either, but I think he's the one for me. Can you give me any advice with this situation? Should I just let it stay as a friendship or try to pursue a relationship?
Keep it friendship until you guys are at least living in the same city. Trying to make it work while he is not truly up for it and you guys are so far apart will just put too much strain on a new relationship. Relax, appreciate what you have and wait until the time is right.
Right person, wrong time, know what I mean?
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"